That means it is October 31 – the last day of this Singleness series.
I’ve already written a few different posts about making the most of your singleness: 10 Things to Do Before Marriage, creating a 30 Before 30 List, and Don’t Miss It. Those posts gave suggestions on specific things to do while you are single. They encouraged you to step out of your comfort zone and stop waiting for your life to begin.
Today’s post is a little more focused. We are going to revisit The List from earlier this month. In case you didn’t read that post, it is a list of the qualities you are looking for in a spouse. I maintain the position that there isn’t anything inherently wrong with creating a list like this. But if you choose to make one, you need to realize it isn’t quite that simple.
Look at your list – do you live up to everything on it? On my list, I wrote down “He doesn’t disappear. No matter how awkward the conversation or uncomfortable the situation is, he doesn’t disappear.” But often, that is exactly how I handle things. I ignore texts or emails from guys that I’m not interested in instead of being honest and letting them down gracefully. I am definitely making progress in this area, but I still have a ways to go.
Instead of focusing on what you want in a spouse, maybe you should focus on becoming the kind of spouse you would want. Do you want someone who is honest and loyal? Make sure you are an honest and loyal person. Do you want someone who lives a life of grace and forgiveness? Examine your heart. Are you holding any grudges? It’s time to let them go. Use this list as a way to discover what is important to you. And to discover what qualities you may need to improve on.
Take this time to work on you. Make the most of this season of singleness to ensure that you are ready to be the kind of husband or wife you would want. Because you deserve the best; and so does your future spouse.
So, yes, you absolutely can make a list of qualities you want in a spouse. But you better be willing to live up to that list yourself!
I also wanted to say thank you for all the positive feedback this month. Thank you for reading these posts day after day, and for all the comments and emails I’ve received. I appreciate it more than you know! And I hope you keep coming back even though the series is over