Day 28: Does Sexy Equal Slutty?

Since when did the word sexy become synonymous with the word slutty? I’m not exactly sure, but I’m inclined to blame Halloween.

What is it about Halloween that makes girls dress like…well, like sluts?

The Infamous Slutty Pumpkin on How I Met Your Mother

Most costumes these days are titled “Sexy” but should really be called slutty. The “Sexy Kitten” and the “Sexy Bumble Bee” are some of the top sellers this Halloween, at least according to the ad that keeps popping up on Google. But we don’t have to buy the costumes that way. We can make our own…and apparently even a pumpkin costume can be slutty.

I’m not judging anyone here. I’ve done it too. I’ve dressed as a French maid, a half-clothed genie, and Holly Golightly. At the time I thought that last one was rather classy. But I went with Holly in the oversized tux shirt instead of Holly in the black dress. Basically, I went with the “sexiest” version of Holly. (And upon further reflection, I realized that as classy as Audrey made that role, she was still playing a prostitute. So on my classiest Halloween night, I was dressed as a hooker.)

The problem is, we have let the word sexy become something it shouldn’t.

It shouldn’t be code for slutty Halloween costume. (Has anyone ever suggested you dress as a sexy librarian? Because I’ve received that suggestion multiple times. And I’m not sure I appreciate it.)

It is time to redefine sexy.

A woman is sexy when she is confident. When she is content and comfortable in her own skin. She is sexy when she is intelligent and knows who she is.

There’s no need to save that sexiness for Halloween. We can and should be this definition of sexy every day. And trust me, this version of sexy is much more comfortable!

How would you redefine sexy?

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5 Responses to “Day 28: Does Sexy Equal Slutty?”

  1. D$ October 28, 2011 at 4:58 pm #

    Great Article. Found this the other day While Reading a Book. “Jesus Said, ‘For judgment i came into this world, that those who see may become blind.” JOHN 9:39
    You cant blame a Dog for eating your shoes when he has not been warned, or a cat thats shred the curtains . Rather than judge we must become blind to what the world is and Love like a Savior. Keep up with the great blogs.

  2. hopefulleigh October 28, 2011 at 5:45 pm #

    This is a great question. I honestly have never stopped to define sexiness. It does seem to have become synonymous with slutty, unfortunately. That really diminishes who we are as women. I’ll have to think on this one.

    • JenniferBryant October 29, 2011 at 12:07 am #

      It does It definitely does diminish who we are. I could have made this post quite epic with all my thoughts, but decided to keep it short. Will probably revisit this topic in the future.

  3. diana trautwein October 28, 2011 at 9:41 pm #

    Although I haven’t been single for almost 46 years – how can this be true??? – I just wanted to pop in and say that your series has just been outstanding, Jennifer. Really thoughtful, fun, challenging and right on target. Thanks for your work – and your faithfulness in getting these posts done each and every day.

    • JenniferBryant October 29, 2011 at 12:10 am #

      Congratulations on your 45+ years of success!! And thank you so much. I truly appreciate you reading the blog and taking the time to comment. It means a lot.