Since when did the word sexy become synonymous with the word slutty? I’m not exactly sure, but I’m inclined to blame Halloween.
What is it about Halloween that makes girls dress like…well, like sluts?
Most costumes these days are titled “Sexy” but should really be called slutty. The “Sexy Kitten” and the “Sexy Bumble Bee” are some of the top sellers this Halloween, at least according to the ad that keeps popping up on Google. But we don’t have to buy the costumes that way. We can make our own…and apparently even a pumpkin costume can be slutty.
I’m not judging anyone here. I’ve done it too. I’ve dressed as a French maid, a half-clothed genie, and Holly Golightly. At the time I thought that last one was rather classy. But I went with Holly in the oversized tux shirt instead of Holly in the black dress. Basically, I went with the “sexiest” version of Holly. (And upon further reflection, I realized that as classy as Audrey made that role, she was still playing a prostitute. So on my classiest Halloween night, I was dressed as a hooker.)
The problem is, we have let the word sexy become something it shouldn’t.
It shouldn’t be code for slutty Halloween costume. (Has anyone ever suggested you dress as a sexy librarian? Because I’ve received that suggestion multiple times. And I’m not sure I appreciate it.)
It is time to redefine sexy.
A woman is sexy when she is confident. When she is content and comfortable in her own skin. She is sexy when she is intelligent and knows who she is.
There’s no need to save that sexiness for Halloween. We can and should be this definition of sexy every day. And trust me, this version of sexy is much more comfortable!
How would you redefine sexy?
What’s coming up in the series? Making the Most of Your Singleness and The 30 Before 30.
Missed the earlier posts in this series? Find them here!