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Why Watching Parenthood Freaks Me Out | J Bryant Writes

Why Watching Parenthood Freaks Me Out

I’ve always wondered when I would finally feel like an adult.

I thought it would happen at 18. But when you’re still in high school, that 18th birthday doesn’t seem so special.

Then I thought it would happen when I went away to college. But I was still relying on my parents, and there were so many things I couldn’t do.

Next, I thought maybe that 21st birthday would make me an adult. I mean, I would finally be able to drink! But that day came and went. That first glass of wine at a restaurant was pretty cool, but life went back to normal.

Graduation was the next big thing. I had to decide what job to take and where to move. Of course, with those decisions came even more big decisions. What health insurance plan to choose, how much to contribute to a 401k, how much to pay on my student loan each month…

And then I made the even bigger decision of leaving all that behind and starting a new career. I thought for sure I’d feel like an adult when I had to set up a tax ID, when I started making quarterly tax payments, when I had to choose my own health insurance plan (like actually choose a company, plan, etc).

What’s funny, is that none of those things really made me feel like an adult like watching Parenthood does.  I just started watching the show, and I freaked myself out when I realized that I relate to the parents in the show more than the kids. Does that mean I’m officially an adult? That I totally side with the parents on this show rather than the kids?

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I’m sure there will come a day when something else makes me feel like an adult. Maybe when I get engaged, or when I get married, or (gasp) when I do actually become a parent someday. But from what I’ve read and heard from others, you never really feel like a complete adult. I suppose there comes a time when you feel more adult than kid, but I’m not sure that kid part ever really leaves us.

So in defiance to the adult-like feeling I get when watching this show, I will watch it before 10 am while eating chocolate chip cookies, potato chips, and Dr Pepper.

3 Responses to “Why Watching Parenthood Freaks Me Out”

  1. Latricia October 31, 2012 at 1:10 pm #

    Well, as you mother, I can happily say that I am glad you are just now “feeling adulthood”. I was an adult at the age of 6 with younger siblings and adult responsibilities; so I take full blame for your late bloom into adulthood and happy to have contributed to you lengthy childhood. :) I do think that some of the blame also can be attributed to your daddy as you are definitely “daddy’s little girl”.
    I love that you added the final sentence declaring you defiance of your adult-like feelings.
    Very proud of you! Love that you don’t mind me reading and from time to time commenting on your posts.
    Love,
    Mom

  2. Katie November 1, 2012 at 9:30 am #

    I remember talking to my mom around the time I graduated from high school, and she told me that she was still waiting for someone to come along and tell her, “You’re an adult now! Congratulations!” And she was on her own a bit earlier–she paid her way through college, including paying rent to her parents in order to stay in their apartment after she graduated high school.

    But she said every new milestone she hit–high school graduation, first job, college graduation, moving out, graduate school, getting married, having kids–she still just felt like she was just plain old K, floundering around, that she never crossed a line that said definitively, okay, I’m an adult now.

    And then suddenly here she was, with her oldest graduating high school, and in some ways she still didn’t feel any different, even though she knew that clearly she had been an adult for a long time.

    I guess her point was that, in the end, you are you. You never stop growing and changing, so you never can “arrive” at adulthood, even though eventually you know you’re not the you who was a kid anymore, either. And I’m married and about to have my first baby, and so far as I can tell, she’s right. ^_^

    • Jennifer Bryant November 2, 2012 at 10:41 am #

      Congrats on the baby!! So exciting! And I like your final point. You never arrive at adulthood, it is just a journey we’re all on :)